LOOK IN THE MIRROR

May 26, 2022 – So many looking for answers right now. I doubt many of us will find the right places to look. What if we all started by looking in the mirror, examining ourselves as individuals, as human beings? We have to start someplace, it might as well be in front of a mirror.

Who am I? What do I believe? Why do I believe in what I believe? How did I come to accept these beliefs? What influenced my beliefs? Who influenced my beliefs? How have I changed over time and why? There are many questions we can ask ourselves.

It is impossible to make sense out of the senseless so we might as well look in the mirror. All change starts with the person in the mirror. Stop looking to others to solve the problems. Look in the mirror.

Not Again

In the days after the Sandy Hook School massacre I thought it would change our hearts and we would come to our senses. 20 of the 26 who died were 6 and 7 years old. Gone in a few moments their bodies ripped apart. Hundreds left scarred and grieving for life. 20 children, gone in an instant. Yet here we are. 19 children born within months of Sandy Hook and their hearts no longer beat.

How are we still in this place where we do not care enough to make the madness stop? Everyone has an opinion. No one has a solution. How do so many people simply go on with their daily activities as if nothing happened yesterday?

Today my heart is a lead weight. The Seattle skies are gray. I can’t stop thinking about my grandchildren and the world I’ve given them. How will I feel on their first day of school? It should not be this way But it is our reality.

Every adult in America is responsible for what happened at Robb Elementary School. EVERY ADULT IN AMERICA IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENED AT ROBB ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. We have all contributed in some way to our society and now this is what we live with.

I can’t stop thinking about my grandchildren and the world they live in. I can’t stop thinking about my grandchildren and the world I’ve given them.

May 25, 2022

Proof of Grief

“Grief never ends… But it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. It is the price of love.”

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August 22, 2017 – Gold Mountain Golf Course

This was the last round of golf Paul and I ever played together. One day earlier we witnessed the eclipse in Madras, OR. When I look at this picture I wonder what he was thinking. He knew his cancer had returned. His mind must have been racing. It is hard to imagine the weight of uncertainty.

Another year has passed, four now since our friend slipped away from us. There are not many words left to fully express how much Paul is missed. He was missed deeply at Bradley and Jessie’s wedding last July. He would have been elated for the bride and groom and he would have been proud, very proud. Paul would have grieved with Lee and his family after the sudden passing of Beth. He would have been a comfort to them all. It’s just not the same without his laugh and kind voice.

Paul moved through life will all of its ups and downs. Regardless of what was happening in his own life he never failed to be kind to friends and strangers. Don’t get me wrong, he was not perfect, who is? He was intentional in his kindness and in his gratitude. Our world could use a whole lot more of his intentionality today.

Each one of us has the opportunity today to pass along a kindness and perhaps it will bring Paul back for just a moment. He would have liked knowing this is how we remember him. He would have loved it. Imagine how different our world could be.

Joel Wentz – Critical Race Theory

I’m not sure how I found Joel Wentz while rummaging around the internet but I can say I’m glad I did. He recently did a series of 4 short videos on Critical Race Theory well worth anyone’s time who wants to look at the subject which we all should regardless of your current thoughts on the subject.

In addition to these videos he also does book reviews and touches on other subjects. His presentation is organized and Joel does not talk over your head. In short he is a great communicator. I hope you will take time to check him out. HisYouTube series is called Books & Big Ideas. Enjoy! You can also follow Joel on Twitter @JoeltheValient – Let me know what you think.

Critical Race Theory

If you can read this Twitter thread it is worth taking a few minutes. Click on the picture and it should take you to the entire thread for 22 lessons on Critical Race Theory.

For Family, Friends & Acquaintances – I ask your help

My business partner Peter Viliesis and I have worked for over three years to develop a unique planning system for business owners. It is now time to get the word out to a broader audience and we decided to start with friends, family and acquaintances. It will be nice to know you will at least give a listen because sometimes it just feels like we are shouting into the wind. This is the nature of startups.

We named the system Business Value Protection Planning.

The amazing thing is we have not been able to find anyone out there who has taken this type of approach to help business owners in the way we designed the planning system. It is different from our original vision but it is more accurate to say what we created was more of a series of evolutionary leaps as we gained insight into how business owners think and what they truly need.

The business owner is the hero of the story.

We invite business owners into a story when we work with them where they are the hero of the story and they have a problem. Our role in the story is we are simply guides, we offer a plan to help them solve their problem and avoid failure. In Star Wars Luke Skywalker is the hero and Yoda is the guide.

Rather than make you suffer through several descriptive pages of I’ve created a few short (under 2 minute) videos stored in the world of YouTube. They describe the basis and the foundation of what we do. We designed the planning system to be simple yet it is sophisticated. These can be shared with anyone and I hope if you have questions or suggestions you will speak up, let us know where we can improve.

Business owners who apply the principles of Business Value Protection Planning will be far better off than they are now even if they use them separate from our direct help.

The hero’s journey starts with one simple pie chart. Here is the playlist of videos……….

Mother’s Day – May 2021

Everyone has a Mother and everyone knows a Mother. More than 100 Billion humans have been born in the world’s history. It still takes nine months and it still takes years before the child is able to survive without assistance. The world has changed greatly but motherhood has stayed the same.

It is a good day to reflect. My kids have a Mom who worked hard to get it right. My three grandkids have two awesome Moms. Proud of them all and all they do.

My Mom on her 89th Birthday
Dad with his Mom Lilian
Mom with her Mom Marion
My Mom with Aunt Anne Mom to J. Bruce and J. Paul

Paul – Three Years Now

Paul loved his friends and loved being with them. He loved playing golf and eating with them. Paul’s friends loved him and he made us feel a bit better when we were with him or simply hearing his voice on a phone call. Knowing he had great friends takes a little of the edge off from the hurt of missing him. His smile was genuine and his laugh infectious, you could hear it from many rooms away.

Some of these pictures were taken at TPC Sawgrass in Florida. Paul loved this trip to play in a tournament benefiting The Fellowship of Christian Athletes. This year The Players Championship, played at TPC Sawgrass, ends on Sunday March 14, the three year anniversary of Paul’s passing. I am reminded of how much he enjoyed being with people he loved.

Enjoy the pictures and the reminder of his smile. I can hear his laugh just looking at these. If you have photos you would like to share please sent them to me and I will add them. Jdougmar@gmail.com